Thank you Sarah. I particularly appreciate the reminder that “ his way of processing information is the different as hers”.
Although this sounds obvious I forget at times.
When I approach my husband with what can be perceived as emotionally evocative conversation I need to explicitly remind myself:
A. What he finds emotionally evocative maybe different that what I find emotionally evocative (ie for example if I’m cleaning the garden tools I don’t mind being interrupted if he has something he wants to share with me).
B. When I have emotions he doesn’t process my feelings in the same way my NT friends do. He may easily feel overwhelmed and personalise them.
Thus an explicit reminder to myself BEFORE I approach a conversation, to “set the stage” for myself to be patient and open knowing he processes DIFFERENTLY is very helpful.
Thank you so much for your article. Very helpful indeed!
Thank you Sarah. I particularly appreciate the reminder that “ his way of processing information is the different as hers”.
Although this sounds obvious I forget at times.
When I approach my husband with what can be perceived as emotionally evocative conversation I need to explicitly remind myself:
A. What he finds emotionally evocative maybe different that what I find emotionally evocative (ie for example if I’m cleaning the garden tools I don’t mind being interrupted if he has something he wants to share with me).
B. When I have emotions he doesn’t process my feelings in the same way my NT friends do. He may easily feel overwhelmed and personalise them.
Thus an explicit reminder to myself BEFORE I approach a conversation, to “set the stage” for myself to be patient and open knowing he processes DIFFERENTLY is very helpful.
Thank you so much for your article. Very helpful indeed!
I’m glad you found this helpful, Tracy. I like the reminders you’ve created for yourself to help you develop new habits.
Great tips. Thank you.
You're welcome, Lisa. Happy to help.