QUESTIONS FROM OUR COMMUNITY:
Disagreements, misunderstandings, and defensiveness in the neurodiverse relationship
I was asked this question in Chat:
“…my husband gets upset when I ask him why he made a certain choice or said a certain thing. Oftentimes, this happens in the context of a disagreement, so the emotions are already a little heightened. It seems to me that sometimes my husband can’t explain or won’t explain the why behind his choices. Is this part of neurodiversity? How does one handle this? It’s so hard for me to move on from a disagreement when I don’t have an improved understanding of my partner.”
I always appreciate receiving a direct question like this one because I know that for every person who asks, there are many others facing the same situation and feeling alone in it. I encourage you to enter your questions in the Chat section and I will respond by writing a post for everyone to see. Your identity is aways confidential, of course. I will post an excerpt like the one above and then write a response. I look forward to hearing from you.